About Me
Rebuilding Through Resilience
I’m Zsarina Lovett — an advocate and the creator of the AIN Framework™: Awareness, Intervention, and New Beginnings.
I didn’t get here by following the rules or fitting the mold. I got here by staying true to who I am, and choosing to heal — over and over again.
My work is rooted in lived experience and shaped by the quiet strength it takes to rebuild a life. I’ve walked through trauma, systems, and silence — and came out the other side determined to make things different. Not just for me, but for anyone ready to rise.
Untamed & Unapologetic.
My Story
For much of my early life, I was caught in cycles of abuse. From childhood through to early adulthood, I experienced violence, coercive control, and the deep shame and silence that often follow. Like so many others, I internalised the pain for years, thinking it was somehow my fault. It wasn’t. And neither is yours.
Over time — and through a long journey of falling down and rising again — I began to rebuild. I created the AIN Framework not just as a concept, but as a companion: a step-by-step pathway I walked myself, and now offer to others. This model guides people through recognising what abuse actually looks like, finding safe and supported intervention, and ultimately, new beginnings — practical tools to start over and live free.
But my story didn’t stop there.
During my early adult years, while someone I love dearly was under the care of someone I trusted, they suffered a traumatic brain injury. Overnight, I became a full-time caregiver and found myself deeply entangled in New Zealand’s ACC system. What followed were years of navigating endless paperwork, assessments, reports, and meetings. I quickly realised how isolating and exhausting the process can be — especially when you're already under immense emotional strain.
That experience taught me something new: even in systems designed to support us, survivors and caregivers can feel unseen.
So I began to advocate — not just for my own whānau, but for others too. I now offer 1:1 ACC advocacy and support, particularly for those caring for loved ones after serious injury or trauma. Always from a trauma-informed, survivor-led perspective.
Alongside my lived experience, I hold formal qualifications that support and strengthen my work. I have a Legal Executive Diploma (NZQA), which helps me navigate systems like ACC and support others through complex processes with clarity and confidence. I also hold a Diploma in Psychology & Counselling, recognised by the International Association for Counselling, and am a certified Life Coach. These credentials allow me to offer trauma-informed, practical, and emotionally grounded support.
In the past, I co-founded Zen & Stone, a grassroots charity providing care bags for women leaving violence — a project that remains close to my heart and continues to shape my vision for survivor-led change.
My life’s work is now centred on healing, truth-telling, and walking beside others as they reclaim their power. Through my website, www.zsarina2024.com, I offer free resources, my self-help AIN Workbook, advocacy support, and a space to connect, reflect, and rise.
The injury my loved one suffered is mostly invisible — a traumatic brain injury that can’t be seen from the outside, but changes everything. The photos below of MRI & CT Scans show quiet moments behind the scenes. The weight we carry as victims and caregivers often goes unseen too. I share these images not to expose, but to honour the silent strength it takes to keep showing up. To rebuild. To advocate. And to love through it all.
If you’re here because you’re trying to rebuild, escape, or understand your own story — you’re not alone. There is a new beginning waiting for you. And I’d be honoured to walk part of the way with you.
With aroha,
Zsarina
